Elijah Now

What a busy time of the year!  School starts for our kindergartener. Prep for school starts for mommy.  New schedules emerge.  Life takes over... kids, work, church, school… As we are looking for our new normal, keep in mind that our spouses need to be a priority.

I have found that I can only go about 3-4 days without meaningful contact before frustration and bitterness start to rise between Richie and I.  I can fight it, and I do, but it takes a lot of energy.  We have found that it actually saves us a lot of time, and we like each other a lot more if we spend even a little time connecting every day or two.  We are more likely to have  a prospering relationship, rather than just getting through it.

So what might this connection look like?  We have to take regular time to connect with each other at a heart level. So this is NOT time to talk about money, schedules, the kids schooling, and so on. This is time to talk about what we’re feeling, what we’re happy or sad about.  We are learning that every aspect of our family is positively affected when we are connecting regularly. 

Assignment for this month:  Commit to touching down with each other for 10 minutes a day.  Ask questions that go to the heart.  What was the highlight of the day?  Why?  What was challenging?  How did that affect you?  Intentionally move towards your spouse this month.  The deposits in the bank will reap great dividends.